After a lot of recent soul searching, thinking, praying, and contemplation, I’ve come to a realization about life. I know that none of us is promised tomorrow, and that our lives are just a grain of sand blowing through this passage called “life”. I can always use a reminder to cherish each and every day and moment that we have with our loved ones. A tragedy that occurred earlier this week has led to my thought process. My heart went out to a family when they lost their sweet little 2 year old son. I have read, and heard so much speculation, and judgmental attitudes that condemn the Mother by saying that she was “on twitter” the day of the drowning. And that “if” she had been paying more attention to her son, this wouldn’t have happened, or “if” she spent more time with her children, and less on her computer then none of this would’ve taken place.
Well, last I heard, it’s appointed unto man a time to die, and as far as the ultimate time of our births and deaths, that’s up to God. I do know that we must use knowledge and not be ignorant towards situations that could bring harm to ourselves or our precious little ones. I personally know a few families that have lost little ones to accidental deaths, and one question always remains: “what if”?
I’m not sure that if this particular Mother who lost her little 2 year old son this past week had not been “on twitter” (which at times could be typing out a 5 second message from your phone) that her son would have drowned or not. That’s how life is, and God is in control. I can think of more than one time that I have been wrapped up in the computer, television, a good book, a nap, a phone conversation, etc when a tragedy could have easily happened to one or all of my children, but by the grace of God, it didn’t! I am taking a look at my life right now, and I’m thinking that when I am zoned in on the computer, or any other activity that takes my full attention away from any of my 4 children, I need to detach myself, and pay some mind to where and what my children are doing.
I’m praying for this family, and I don’t feel that any of us has the authority or omnipotence to “judge” this Mother or her decisions. I want to love and hug my children daily, and thank God for allowing me to be their Mother during our journey here on earth.
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Lizzy, I’ve been thinking similar thoughts. Something tragic can happen at a moment’s notice. It ultimately is in God’s hands and that is why we should take a moment and reflect, and give humble thanks rather than judge, place blame, scrutinize, and be hateful. Well written my dear.
Very well written. I too have evaluated my activity and have been in support of @military_mom and have actually jumped to her defense on a momlogic forum. Things can happen at anytime and anyplace, it is not in our hands, but God’s. We are not here to judge, but to support and pray for this family in their time of sorrow.
You said this very well. Thank you for bringing up all the good points – and for the reminder that “but there for the grace of God go I”. It can be so easy to point fingers – but no one is perfect, and any mom who is honest knows there are many times during childhood when just turning your back could lead to disastrous results. I feel awful for this family – they are dealing with enough right now. The last thing they (and the mother specifically) need right now, is a bunch of people placing blame. She wasn’t intentionally negligent…she was living life, like all of us do.
You summed up my thoughts perfectly. xx
Lizzy, you couldn’t said it better. I completely agree with you
beautifully said. Well done!
You said this wonderful. It shocks me to how “harsh” people can be. I’m glad I stopped by to read this. Happy Holidays!
It’s so true….our life is already mapped out for us. Great post, I totally agree.
You said it perfectly. I’ve thought about this a lot this week. There are times that I’m Tweeting from my phone a random thought I had. I’m not sitting here glued to my computer to tweet. Ok, except for like an hour or 2 in the evenings when I put the kids to bed or at nap time sometimes.
Heck, I could be helping my oldest with homework for 5 – 10 minutes while keeping an ear out for the other 3 and something could happen. Am I bad mom because I was helping the one?
It’s just sad period.
What a wonderful post Lizzy.
Well said, great post!
Perfectly said!!
I agree – God is in control. I pray for the family as well.