Comments on: Don’t We ALL Just Want To “Fit In”?

By: Lauren @ Hobo Mama

Lauren @ Hobo Mama — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 00:09:08 +0000

Yes, yes, me, too! And no matter how successful you become as a blogger, there’s always someone with more comments and followers than you — on the flip side, you have to realize there’s someone with fewer who’s looking up to you. I’m trying to just continue to be kind, to both sets!

By: CaseyDeuce

CaseyDeuce — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 16:11:03 +0000

Lizzy, I love you, I love this post not for you know, the fact that you’re not feelin’ the love, but for the fact that you wrote it. And on that note, you are wonderful, and you have fabulous people in your life. Whats better- 5 fabulous people (or so) or 100 unfabulous people??

By: Jennifer-Eighty MPH Mom

Jennifer-Eighty MPH Mom — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 23:18:36 +0000

It just occurred to me too that I don’t comment here much – BUT then I realized I don’t get your email subscription. I’m so sorry! I will sign up again and hope that works.

I feel as you do many times, but as each day goes by, I find myself just letting it roll off my back. Forums, or so I thought, are there to help others – not a private bashing group. I like everyone unless they do me wrong. I don’t see why everyone can’t just be friendly, or at least try, you know?

You are well loved – please know that!

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:49:22 +0000

ACK! You read my mind! Great post, girl. Thanks for sharing! You know I love ya! xoxo

By: Lizzy

Lizzy — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 20:40:00 +0000

Thanks so much to everyone who commented, each of you have brought some form of insight and encouragement to me. I truly appreciate the time you took to comment!

By: ShaRhonda

ShaRhonda — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:46:03 +0000

Why oh why am I not getting you feedburner emails anymore? Great post, as you know I’m kind of on the inside looking a little further in than most people and I see exactly what you are talking about and am not about to that that “plunge” until things get straightened out. I still comment, however my crazy life limits me, but only for another week, yay football is almost over!

By: Megan@SortaCrunchy

Megan@SortaCrunchy — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 19:50:24 +0000

I can relate to this in many ways.

(And let me back up and say that like Erin, I am also surprised by this! You have always seemed to be very self-confident and not at all insecure!)

I found myself struggling with these feelings A LOT in my first years blogging. The blogging world seemed like a giant high school and I knew from the start I wasn’t going to be at the Cool Girls Table. And that used to make me bitter and resentful.

Many times, even now, I’ll visit a new blog that has tons of subscribers and think “What does she have that I don’t?”

I will say, however, that having been a part of this thing for so long (almost four years! what?! how is that possible?), the insecurity issues come up less and less. What works best for me is to ignore my stats and just focus on relationships. THAT is what brings me the most joy these days.

I have lots of thoughts on the lack of comments – thoughts I keep meaning to write up in a post, so I won’t bore you with them now, but you aren’t the only one who is wondering where all the commenters have gone!

By: Lauralee Hensley

Lauralee Hensley — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 17:26:54 +0000

I don’t have a blog, but I come and read others and enjoy most of them. I do like it when bloggers don’t trash other’s or put down another blogger. I like when they give them moral support, or just friendly chit chat.
I can’t comment on every blog, there’s just not enough time in my day for that with the family, home cleaning and other duties, and taking the dogs out for wallks, and sometimes dealing with my health issues. I just pick here and there and hope I’ve touched a couple of blogs a day in I hope a positive way. I think it was Mrs. Roosevelt that said “No one else can make you feel inferior, but yourself.” So I think that when their are those in the blogsphere that you can tell are trying to do that to you and others, well just stay away from them like the plague, don’t visit their blogs and torture yourself, don’t try to be anyone than who you are, because you are Great, God Created you, he loves you, and really in the end that is what matters the most. Hang in there, there are people who care out here too.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 17:09:41 +0000

Last night I decided to go back to the beginning of my blog, and I started reading my random posts and it occurred to me that, when I started blogging and really all the way until last July (2008) blogging was wonderful. I never saw anyone being mean, people saying rude things, twitter wasn’t around, and everyone got along. We all would blog hop each day to read what everyone was saying. Now it seems that if you blog hop over to someones site they think your there to “steal” whatever product review they have. It’s pathetic and sad.

I keep to myself because I am so sick of the trash talking. I am so sick of people being mean to each other.

I am apart of ONE forum, and guess what it’s an LDS board. It is my one place to go and escape because I know I am not judged, I know I have real friends there.

It’s really sad that blogging has turned this way, I miss how it used to be.

By: Bobbi Janay

Bobbi Janay — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 15:44:47 +0000

NO you are not alone, I agree with you. I also feel jealous when I see bloggers comment on others blogs and not mine, especially when I am a loyal commenter on their blog. *Hugs*